About & guidelines
A small project, built carefully.
This site is in early development. These are the simple promises and rules that shape the space.
About this project
Created by a survivor. The Survivors Among Project is independently run and not affiliated with any organisation, charity, clinical team, or trained counsellors. It is a quiet place for people affected by sexual abuse, being built slowly and carefully.
Stories and wall posts are published immediately after an automatic safety check that looks for personal details, threats, explicit content and spam. The community can report any post; posts with multiple reports are hidden from public view automatically.
For questions, feedback, corrections, content removal requests, or general enquiries, please contact: thesurvivorsamongproject@outlook.com.
Promises
- I listen without judgement.
- I believe survivors.
- I respect anonymity and your right to control your story.
- I will meet you where you are.
- I will not ask you to disclose anything you don't want to.
What's never okay here
- No victim blaming, in any form.
- No harassment, mockery, or intimidation.
- No graphic descriptions of abuse — protect fellow survivors.
- No hate speech, slurs, or discrimination.
- No grooming, predatory behaviour, or solicitation.
- No pressure to disclose trauma, details, or identity.
- No medical, legal, or therapy advice. Suggest professional support instead.
My why
My name is Taylor. I am a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and rape, and this project exists because of what I have lived through. I want to be honest about that from the start, because I think it matters. At the same time, the details of what happened to me are deeply personal, and I am not currently comfortable sharing them here. Some things are too difficult to put into words, and that is okay. What feels more important to share is how those experiences shaped the person I am and why I felt compelled to build this space.
The abuse I experienced had a profound impact on my mental health and wellbeing throughout my childhood and adolescence. There were years when trauma-related symptoms, severe dissociation, and suicidal thoughts were part of my everyday reality. There were times when I genuinely believed I would not survive my childhood. Looking back, I can see how much those experiences took from me, but I can also see how much strength it took to keep going, even when I did not feel strong at all.
I am now seventeen, and I am much further along in my healing journey than I once thought possible. Healing is not a straight line, and it is certainly not finished for me, but I am in a far better place than I ever imagined I could be. Through that journey, I have developed a deep passion for supporting other survivors and for helping people feel a little less alone in what can be an incredibly isolating experience.
This website is my first real step towards doing that. I will be honest: I do not yet know exactly what this project will become, or how it might grow in the future. I am simply starting somewhere and seeing where it leads. But I do know that if it helps even one person feel understood, supported, less isolated, or more hopeful, then it has already served a purpose.
I also want to say something about the silence that so often surrounds abuse. Although my family loves me and has many positive qualities, there were times when conversations about what happened to me were uncomfortable or actively discouraged. That silence contributed to feelings of shame and isolation that stayed with me for a long time. It also helped me realise, later on, how vital it is for survivors to have safe spaces where they can speak openly and be heard without judgement.
Silence often protects abusers more than it protects survivors. Reducing the stigma around childhood sexual abuse and related trauma is an important part of both healing and prevention. When survivors are believed, supported, and treated with compassion, it can make a meaningful difference in their recovery. I believe that deeply, because I have felt the difference it makes.
My hope is that this space can be part of a bigger shift towards understanding and kindness. Real change begins when we choose to listen, believe survivors, and become the kind of people we needed when we were younger. If you are here because you are hurting, please know that you are not alone, and that healing is possible, even when it feels impossibly far away. Take your time. However you are feeling right now is valid, and you deserve support that meets you exactly where you are.
Behind the numbers
Around one in twenty children in the UK experience sexual abuse. Around one in three women and one in eighteen men in the UK experience sexual assault. Those numbers are staggering, and they matter because they remind us how widespread this issue truly is. But while statistics can help us understand the scale of the problem, survivors are not numbers or data points. They are real people.
Survivors are people with hopes and dreams, talents and ambitions, relationships that matter deeply to them, and so much love to give. They have lives they deserve to fully live, and those lives are worth fighting for. It is easy to hear a statistic and move on. It is much harder, and much more important, to remember the human being behind every single one.
Sexual abuse and assault can profoundly affect a person's sense of safety, identity, mental health, and future. They can force someone into survival mode for years, simply getting through each day rather than truly living it. I spent a long time in that place. The abuse changed me in ways I am still understanding, and there are parts of myself I am only now beginning to rediscover.
But I want to say this clearly: healing is possible. I am living proof of that if I do say so myself, even on the days when it still feels hard. I am no longer simply surviving. I am building a life that is about so much more than what happened to me. I am learning to reclaim my story, find joy again, and believe that my future belongs to me, not to the person who hurt me.
If you are a survivor reading this, please know that you are so much more than your trauma. Your story includes pain, but it also includes resilience, hope, and the possibility of a life filled with meaning and connection. You deserve to heal. You deserve to feel safe. You deserve a future that is not defined solely by what happened, but by who you choose to become.